by David J. Pollay on May 2, 2013
I’m excited (and a little nervous) to be giving my first talk at a TEDx event! The event is being held at the historic Crest Theatre at the Delray Center for the Arts on May 3.
I’m in the closing portion of the program. I speak right before the pro football great, Ricky Williams (I guess I’m his blocking back for the event. I’ll do my best!).
http://www.tedxdelraybeach.com/portfolio/david-j-pollay/
The TEDx bookstore is carrying signed copies of the book and audio book. If you see me, stop me and I’ll add another note to your book. I’ll have the special pen with me!
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by David J. Pollay on May 2, 2013
Hi Everyone,
I’m really excited that The Law of the Garbage Truck is now translated and available in Italian.
We’re up to 12 languages now.
Thanks for all your support.
All the best,
David
by David J. Pollay on July 25, 2012
Say “yes” in a new way; it will change your life.
Too often we say “yes” when we really want to say “no.” Someone makes a request of us and we feel pressured to accept it. We face this predicament practically every week, if not every day. It could be any flavor of request:
- Will you join the committee?
- Will you serve on the board?
- Will you lead the project?
- Will you come to the party?
Invariably, the person making the request is sincere and committed to what they’re doing, and they’re recruiting us because of the value we’ll bring to their initiative. It’s hard to say no when they ask. And if they’re someone who is really persuasive, persistent, or aggressive, it’s even harder to say no. The challenge—no matter how effective or pressure-filled the request—is that we only have so much time and energy.
When I ask the people I coach or the participants in my seminars and speeches how much they enjoy saying no, the answer is always that no one does. So, I teach them how to say yes to their own priorities and projects, rather than put excess energy in their no.
I explain when you say you are not able to join another committee or start another activity, for example, you are saying yes to something else in your life; it could be more time with your family, coaching your children’s sports, exercising, writing your book, or any number of priorities you have. We just have to politely say no because of the other commitments we have (how much we share about these commitments depends on the relationship).
This new way of saying yes relieves us of the heavy burden often associated with having to say no. And while others might be disappointed with our decision, they will respect the clarity of our commitment to what’s important to us.
When we say yes to our lives, we build our confidence to set and follow our own course. We are not tied to the direction others prefer we take.
Good things happen when we say yes to what matters most in our lives.
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p.p.s. Thank you to my friend, Cindy Rold, for her insight into the power of saying “yes.”
by David J. Pollay on July 11, 2012
There are two aspects of bullying we must consider closely.
Bullies are Garbage Trucks: They have the need to make others feel bad and humiliated. Something that’s missing in their lives causes them to taunt and harm others—physically or emotionally. They bully in school, at work, at home, in their neighborhood, and online. We must step in and help them give up their Garbage Truck ways: Bullying is never acceptable.
We must also address the other important part of the equation: the response of the target to the bullying. Targets become Garbage Trucks when they accept the needless criticism and inappropriate behavior of the bullies, internalize and fill up on it all, and then turn around and dump it on others.
When young people take in the vile slung at them and believe what they hear, they give even more life to the bullies barbs, taunts, exclusioning, and rumors. We need to help our children believe in themselves. We need children to have a clear life purpose that equips them with the strength to let the bullies’ hurtful behavior pass by.
Two important notes of caution: First, targets of bullying should be sure to report physical bullying as soon as it happens. There should be no tolerance for physical abuse. Second, students should confide in people they trust when emotional bullying begins.
People should never suffer bullying alone.
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